Wednesday, April 26, 2006
Dietrich Bonhoeffer : Life Together (The Classic Exploration of Faith in Community)
Many people seek fellowship because they are afraid to be alone. Because they cannot stand loneliness, they are driven to seek the company of other people. There are Christians, too, who cannot endure being alone, who have had some bad experiences with themselves, who hope they will gain some help in association with others. They are generally disappointed. Then they blame the fellowship for what is really their own fault. The Christian community is not a spiritual sanatorium. The person who comes into a fellowship because he is running away from himself is misusing it for the sake of diversion, no matter how spiritual this diversion may appear. he is really not seeking community at all, but only distraction which will allow him to forget his loneliness for a brief time, the very alienation that creates the deadly isolation of man. The disintegration of communication and all genuine experience, and finally resignation and spiritual death are the result of such attempts to find a cure.
Larry Crabb says:
The truth about moving toward people in love is that disappointment is just around the corner. I don't have one meaningful relationship that is fully what I want it to be. Every person that I am connected with has let me down in some way or another. The worst part is that I have to face the fact that I have disappointed all those people to. The deeper we go in our relationships; the more acute the disappointments and the greater the pain. When we try to go deep it always leads to *resistance* in the form of conflict..
I am drawing conclusions here that are continuing to point only to me and my desire to do what is 'right in my own eyes.'
I am a conflict avoider unless I know the outcome ....and more and more I am having to surrender my desires to manage a situation or person into a knowable outcome..... into the MYSTERY of what God may be wanting......
Larry Crabb also says the point of the journey is to want what God wants more than anything......Now that's a mystery.......or is it???
Posted by Gigi at 9:14 AM